Our society is evolving. So many personal choices and conditions are now not only in the public eye but down front. Unfortunately one universal part of life is set apart and hidden as our sharing culture is uncomfortable with death and the person who approaches its finality.

In the face of a diagnosis that limits the remaining days in our life, many families conclude that the territory is far too uncomfortable. As health is involved it can seem best to allow the medical professionals to carry the burden. But the reality may be that curative care is no longer needed. When medicine cannot return a person to pre-diagnosis health it could be that a more loving approach is called for.

Most of us are blessed to have a refuge, a sanctuary, where we have many memories and feel safe. A home is familiar with family photographs and pets. And people we are comfortable with. A caring End-of-life Doula can be a constant during the process, a face and a person beside you during the journey. A companion to let go with and be at ease. That person who walks with you on the road and follow you to the gate. This aspect matters more to me than any others.